Sunday 11 March 2012

How was Angelina Jolie able to Steal Brad Pitt?

The question really is, was Brad Pitt up for grabs in 2005?  It is rumoured that Brad and Angelina met on the set of "Mr & Mrs Smith" and that's where it all began.

It would be easy to label Angelina as the tempest seductress who stole Brad.  But think of it, as the old saying goes: "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."  So although Brad was tempted, it was his decision to jump ship from Jennifer Aniston.

This love triangle has fascinated us for a long time, yet the lessons have evaded most of us. If you don't want to be the next person on the chopping block, better handle  these things.  A must do, if you don't want your loved one, guy or girl, to be swoop up from under your arms, never to return again.

Relationships Need Nurturing

Firstly, Jennifer and Brad must have had some gaps in their relationship for someone else to step in and fill it.  No matter how great things are, you must make time to appreciate and enjoy each other.  Always try daily to encourage and help each other.  Show genuine appreciation and compliment each other on a job well done.


Criticism Is Never Welcomed

We are all guilty of criticising each other, but it is really never welcomed.  

Men hate women to criticise them, they equate it with nagging, so be sure to find creative ways of getting them to see your point of view.  I am not suggesting manipulation, but rather, out of the box thinking.

It has been rumoured that Jennifer was furious with Brad because he made a bad comment about his marriage to Jennifer.  The truth is, no matter how long ago the relationship ended, it is still something to be left in the past.

In any relationship, it is much better to find a way to highlight the good points and be creative and sparing when pointing out a flaw.  Instead of bearing down on the person, you may show a better way by example.  As they say, action speaks louder than words, so why not try that instead.

Never spend time with a new love, rehashing all the terrible things your Ex did to you.  If you feel the need to do this, then you really are not over your Ex and your new love will feel slighted.


It Isn't Over Until Its Over For You!

This is a crucial point for anyone coming out of a relationship.  Unfortunately for Jennifer, the fans are not that forgiving.  Since we live in a society of instantanous solutions, we expect that Jennifer should move on almost immediately - well it has been over 5 years since Brad left her!

I really wish people would have more patience and realise that it takes people time to go through the grieving process.  Unfortunately, this process cannot be rushed and it is different for each person.

Many times after a break-up people choose to find someone else almost immediately.  It is a vain attempt to make the person who left them take notice.  It is their way of saying, "look at what you lost!"  However, the reality of doing something like this, only says, "I still love you and want you back."  

It is hard work coming out of a broken relationship or marriage, and you need to be kind to yourself.  It does not matter how long it takes, just take time to heal yourself.

You wonder why Jennifer has had so many broken relationships since Brad left her?  Well, isn't it obvious?  Jennifer was completely in love with Brad, she took her marriage vows very seriously, it literally broke her heart when Brad left.  All the relationships she entered after never seem to fill the void created when Brad left.

The problem is, when someone leaves you, a hole is left inside of you.  That hole is the space they occupied in your heart.  When they leave, that space becomes vacant and you literally feel the emptiness inside of you - commonly known as "heartache" or "heart break".  

Any attempts to fill this space with others, alcohol or drugs is futile.  In this case, the old adage stands true - ONLY TIME WILL HEAL A BROKEN HEART!  Enduring and growing is what is needed, not endless distractions.  You need to face the pain and accept that it is over. Through acceptance, comes freedom to live and to love again without fear.  Many people prematurely enter new relationships without resolving the hurt of the pass and this is why many new relationships fail.

We as a society need to give people space to grieve and live through loss, without forcing them to move on when they are not ready.  If they take a long time, that is okay.  

So make sure you take the time to say to your loved ones, "I love you" not in literal terms but in actions.